How To Make Folks Respect You If You're Quiet

borednow says:

these examples are all about men. can you make a video about women too? having your arm around the back of a chair is considered rude in a lot of cultures and definitely not ladylike either. can you make a video about looking confident while still maintaining decorum/etiquette?

HATECELL says:

Another great way to.. uuuuhhh… not get cut off at the end of a sentence is the.. uuuuuuhhh… pilot method

Alternative Headlines says:

I naturally use my hands to speak but do it less now because people keep looking at what your hands are doing. It feels like they're not paying attention any more.

Aklokoth says:

Love how all these types of YouTube channels try to shill some kind of product to make you more likable. Just screams scam.

Lance says:

Is this why Americans have a big mouth and crazy hands 🤲

Davero says:

You lost me at Will Smith.

Gabriel Sierra says:

LOL, In Puerto Rico we all speak with our hands, the quiet and the loud alike, so this method doesn't work for us!

King Chongy says:

Quiet or not, my coworkers will still talk over me so I just sit back and listen.

When ever they ask me “what do you think”, my response to them is “I don’t”.

BashFisk says:

My two (out of 3) friends always interrupt me mid-sentence to talk about something they like. This normally doesn’t bug me, but this happens EVERY time I start to talk about something. I feel like they probably find my sharing boring, and it hurts. It hurts that even though I listen intently with a grin about their stories of God of War’s entire plot (for reference, I was telling my friend about an interesting thing that happened in a video game I was playing and he somehow tied it to something Kratos could do in God of War and proceeded to tell me for the 70th time how unstoppable Kratos is before reciting the story like it was scripture), what they did in VR, their vaguely exciting events that happened while they were at work, or a simple meme, they are unable to listen about the thought, time, heart, and research I put into making a character for a short story in my grade 12 English course, my progress learning a 6 minute piece on piano (with no previous skill), something I learned while hiking or snowboarding, or an accomplishment in a video game.

Every time, without fail, they interrupt me to talk about something else and I just listen. I comment a couples times to let them know I’m listening and engaged, but nothing more than that, and it hurts; am I really just that uninteresting, or do they simply not care?

I know this isn’t very relevant to the video, but please, if someone is talking about something you don’t find interesting, I ask you to act interested listen anyway. Even though you don’t find it interesting, they do. They wanted to share it with someone, and they chose to share it with you, so please be respectful and show that you care by listening to what they have to say. I’m sorry for ranting, but the video brought this to my attention and I began crying. Then I realized there are probably others who go through this minor thing as well, so I wanted to write this. I didn’t intend for it to be this long, and I’m sorry. If anyone actually reads this, I humbly thank you from the bottom of my 17-year-old heart.

MR. Mechanic says:

I’m not even going to try and compete with these comments

Reclaimer Leviathan says:

A lot of this stuff isn't stuff you should be "trying" – it's not causation, it's correlation.

You don't need to use more of the space on a seat, you just need to be comfortable. If you're comfortable, then people see you're comfortable, and their brain also thinks "I'm in a safe space, I can let my guard down". Body language either says "I/this is safe/trustworthy", or "you might be in danger". But it's not something you can pretend/force. You're either comfortable, and your body shows it, or you're nervous/on edge… and your body shows it. You can't pick it. You first have to deal with your insecurities and have confidence in where you are/who you're talking to before you body lets its guard down like that naturally.

Making eye contact for the sake of making it isn't the point. You make eye contact to make sure you still have their attention, and that they know you're talking to them, and not someone else. And if not, then you've "lost" them. It's a feedback loop – if you're looking for their attention, then they'll see that and end up giving it to you. Humans look at the things they are paying attention to. It's not hard. If you're reminiscing/recalling something, you can look around so your brain can focus on the "image" in your head, but then you need to direct that information you've recalled to the person you're trying to direct it to.

Sharing praise isn't "being quiet", so I don't know why that's even here. That's just, in general, how to gain respect – humility. Of course. Has nothing to do with being quiet, because you can't be quiet while doing it.

Hand gestures are an extension/habit of humanity from describing physical things in our environment, and pointing at things/people. It commands attention, not necessarily repsect, though. It's how you keep focus on you, not how you gain respect. You still have to do other things once you have that attention.

You can be reactive in your body if you want. Just don't make the other person think you're not listening to them. Don't cut them off or make it look like you want to cut them off. Basically, have self-control, and respect another person when they're talking/make sure you see them, because they want to feel seen.

Pauses in speech are just places where you want to stop and think about what to say next. You don't need pauses. If you want to use pauses/feel like you need them, then use them, but it's not required.

This video was a bunch of "we've seen these things being done, therefore it must be what causes these other things", but it does not explore the "root cause" of these actions/body language motions, speech patters, etc.

ShingShing says:

Just realized I've been doing this ever since I was a kid. Wow. Now, I just gotta bring back my confidence after what pandemic did. Lol.

S Nap says:

Psychopathic ish undertone

St_Cuthbert says:

Hmm seems usefull info I`m gonna try some of that pausing in my next stream see if I can up-the-fun a bit. Thnx for the vid ^^