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Today we’ll go over how to handle it when someone insults you.
We’ll start with a couple classic “destroy” comebacks. These are great at winning over an audience and embarrassing the person who insulted you. Be warned though, they may make the target of your comeback hate you.
Then we’ll cover some friendlier, more charismatic responses so that you come away looking cool and confident without making enemies.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:00 – Intro
0:17 – #1: The high status reframe
1:40 – #2: Accept the insult and use it against them
2:54 – #3: Insult the insult
3:27 – #4: Draw a boundary
4:31 – #5: The “tit for tat” or “eye for an eye” method
6:25 – #6: Show that you’re unaffected
8:18 – How do I build deep, unshakable confidence?
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My best one was after putting on 10 pounds. A guy with a beer belly said "damn your getting fat". I just smiled, poked his gut and said "just trying to catch up". Smile dropped off his face as I walked away with a smile.
Last lesson: if you insult yourself enough then if anyone says anything it will be boring since you heard it before
What about people who bully you BECAUSE you are funny? The bullies are thick-skinned, they obviously love the new wit even though we hate dispensing it.
I'm learning as much by reading the comments as I did by watching the video.
Dane Cook is so underrated
You forgot to say you can only use a comeback your hands will support
7:41 but isn't this reaction awkward?
Ive read many clever comebacks however, in the big picture, my children and grandchildren will live in the world I helped to create. An eye for an eye makes the world go blind. Perhaps that's why Jesus said turn the other cheek, and love your enemies. And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak. And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke also. I think it comes down to guilt and self shame is the one way to really change a person or yourself is by provoking them to do some self reflection, keeping in mind the ego doesn't like it, because it's built for self protection but can get out of control like an autoimmune syndrome.
Good vid
It's the lack of confidence in the new generation that has them so sensitive to banter or comedy…makes sense to me..
The problem isn't so much coming up with a great comeback, it's coming up with the comeback in a timely manner. If you can't counter the insult within a few seconds, just don't.
Insults are like an energy. You can reflect it, absorb it, or disperse it. It's what you say that matters especially. Be careful with your words.
I miss Norm.
Lose your temper. Some people need to be put in their place.
My go to is: im rubber youre glue whatever u say to me bounces off and sticks to u
I always say "Sorry, I don't value your opinion one bit".
I’ve been told many times that I have the patience of a Saint . But anyone being rude or insulting to me or any of my family and friends and basically anyone I deem to being bullied. Will be told in short order to curb ignorant attitude. To hell with a witty retort or come back.
My favorite comeback I've ever used to an insult was "That was a good one. Did it take you all day to come up with that one?"
2:02
Sounds like something that I did shortly after my son was born. I was showing his picture to my coworkers and one of them said "He must get his looks from his mom. He is a handsome fellow." I responded by saying, "Actually I think he looks more like you: he's got no hair and no teeth". All the other guy could do was smile and walk away.
If you are a good person insult won't harm you.
Wish I had found this video while I was still working in the service industry. So many insults thrown at me that I’ve responded to with threats, violence and anger. It’s done the job of getting them to shut up and apologize but I’d rather have saved some of my energy. Some of the things people have said still bother me today.
Pure crap!!!
Trying to burn Greg Garaldo was such a bad idea.
If a girl said “you are annoying”.You say “I am annoying, but you are a show off like your rich.
SPIDERMAN is such a nice fella !!!!
Jordan Peterson is a little baby
1:58 ANNIHILATED
Cyrano de Bergerac nuff said
My favorite is acting truly hurt and offended so it gets all quiet and awkward and then I start laughing maniacally and shout "I got you…and you….aaaannnd YOU MFR!!!! (at the person who insulted you with middle finger extended in their face)" People are so grateful to have the tension shattered, they all start laughing with you. Its a pimp move if you do it right.
work out too
its kinda hard to rip on someone who is in great shape and if it got too bad then you would be strong enough to beat them up lol
I attended grade 1 in Greek Macedonia. On the first day, we were asked what did Alexander the Great teach us ? The answer was if a man insults you, kill him. We asked what about the consequences ? Alexander said deal with that after. True story.
I had a woman tell me I was a worthless piece of crap. I said "thank you, glad to hear you think I am improving". while laughing and smiling. She was dumbfounded and rendered speechless. Everyone laughed and I never saw her again for the rest of the night as I was too busy talking to her friends. One of which I went home with.
Weren't there any women who made good jokes?
I laugh or roll with it or join in if somebody insults me. Depending on my mood.
In the past it was simple , smash their mouth .
Your channel seems to be about victimhood and getting revenge. Terrible!💩
Just smile with little ignorance and ask again "are u saying something"……( Multiple times workout for me)..
They on cinema otw
I wish I had learned about this years ago. I used to be a truck driver with my husband and was insecure about my weight. I used to be about 30 pounds overweight. We met up with my uncle and while we were eating lunch at a restaurant, out of the blue he asked me specifically if I eat constantly during my entire driving shifts. I was so hurt that I ran into the bathroom and couldn’t stop crying.
Oh. Good. Another example why Kevin Hart isnt actually funny.
Out the sarcasm. Simply say "Ouch–that sounded sarcastic. Did you mean it that way?"
Sarcasm is always a "cover emotion" for anger.